Coaching Lessons From the Baseball Diamond: What My Son and I Learned in Our First Season

This spring, my son played his first season of baseball. As a parent, I was nervous, not just for him, but for myself. I’ve spent years as a business leader, supporting new team members as they step up for the first time, welcoming guests and clients, leading productive meetings, understanding financials, and having those “tough” conversations. But this was different. This was my kid. A new sport. A new team. A new coach.

Before I get on my soapbox about the high value of unpaid work, volunteering, let me say, not all coaches are the same. We’ve been blessed in other sports. Chris, Graham, and “another Dan,” you’ve all been wonderful. But I want to talk explicitly about Coach Dan Blackmore for a moment.

I didn’t know Dan from any other parent volunteer, but what he gave my family over 12 weeks might well have changed us.

A Moment That Mattered

Dan coached my son to throw his first strike, the moment captured in the video below. This wasn’t during a game, and it wasn’t even during regular practice. The season was over, and there was no expectation for Dan to spend any more time with the team, but he did. He wasn’t asked. Maybe it was for the love of the game, or perhaps it’s because “coach” isn’t a switch you turn on and off. It’s who you are.

That extra moment, just a coach, a kid, and a ball, meant everything. My son’s confidence soared. He felt seen, supported, and capable.

Through My Son’s Eyes

If you asked my son, he’d probably say, “Coach liked me most.” Not because Dan was always nice, but because he was consistent, kind and gave constant feedback. That kind of high-value attention filled my son up. He knew he mattered, and that made all the difference.

From Glove and Bat to Back Catcher

My son started the season with a glove, a bat, and a ton of desire. That’s it. And honestly, isn’t that what we want with any new team member? Hire for desire, train for skill. Over the weeks, he went from knowing just two things about baseball, hit and run, to understanding plays, covering his teammates, and cheering them on in the good and the bad. He even decided he wanted a bigger role, to be part of the game as a back catcher. Coach Dan encouraged this, supported it, and celebrated it.

The Business of Coaching (and Burgers)

On that last day, I learned something new about Coach Dan. I’d always seen him in his Bin 4 t-shirt, but I just thought he really liked burgers. Turns out, he’s a business owner. Suddenly, it all clicked. He coaches the way successful business owners lead, giving skills, offering feedback, and holding nothing back. He knows that when you are successful individually, then we are successful collectively.

As a leadership development professional, I’ve supported teams in many businesses. I see all kinds of leaders. There are managers who get the job done, task-focused and gold. There are visionaries, who innovate while they eat breakfast. And then there are coaches, the ones who hold a vision, develop future leaders, and give feedback over just praise. Coaches leave things better than they found it.

Coach Dan reminded me that the best leaders that do more than direct. They invest. They encourage. They celebrate growth, not just results. They know that when you are successful, we are successful.

Lessons for Leaders

Watching my son’s journey and Coach Dan’s approach reminded me of a few universal truths about leadership and coaching:

  • Desire is the foundation. Skills can be taught, but passion and willingness are priceless.
  • Celebrate growth, not just results. Every small win matters, especially for beginners.
  • Invest in others, even when it’s inconvenient. The extra time, the encouragement, the belief, it all adds up.
  • True leaders create more leaders. By empowering others, we build stronger teams, families, and communities.

Thank You, Coach

So here’s to the coaches, on the field, in the office, and everywhere in between. The ones who show up, who give their time, who see potential and nurture it. You might not always know the impact you have, but trust me, it matters.

Thank you, Coach Dan, for validating me and my son on what great leadership looks like.

Shout it from the bleachers!

If you’ve ever been coached, mentored, or supported by a volunteer, take a moment to thank them. If you have the chance to step up, do it. Our kids, our teams, and our communities need you.

Not a Coach

Leadership Isn’t Coaching—It’s Hands-On Development

It all started with a conversation I had with someone I deeply respect. We were talking about coaching and how what I do can look like coaching.

Here’s the thing: I’m not a coach. Coaching, as I understand it, is a hands-off process. It’s reflective, guided, and often about helping someone uncover their own answers. And while that’s incredibly valuable, it’s not how I approach leadership development.

I’m a leader of people. My role isn’t to coach from the sidelines—it’s to step into the trenches with a team or leader and help them grow through action. For me, leadership development is hands-on. It’s about operational support, accountability, and real-time problem-solving.

It looks like this:

  • “Let’s make this call right now.”
  • “Let’s use the template I gave you.”
  • “Schedule it!”
  • “Get out the calendar, it will guide you”
  • “You said you would ____. Let’s see it.”

It’s not about telling people what to do—it’s about guiding them through the process, helping them build confidence, and holding them accountable to their commitments.

It also sounds a lot like:

  • “I knew you could do it.”
  • “You’ve got this.”
  • “I’m really proud of how far you’ve come!”
  • “That’s Leadership!!!”

Leadership isn’t passive. It’s active, engaged, and intentional. It’s about being present, asking the hard questions, and sometimes even stepping in to show the way.

I’m not a coach. I’m a leader.